Helpful Information to Share with Caregivers
What it means to be a financial caregiver for your parents.
There are many transitions on the journey of life. In some, we find ourselves in roles we did not expect to play. Increasingly, we are entering a time when people are finding themselves in various capacities providing care to a friend, family member or loved one.
Charter Oak helps many clients and their families navigate these waters. In doing so we have collected helpful information for our clients who are caregivers or who know someone being a caregiver.
More than 65 million people, 29% of the U.S. population, provide care for a chronically ill, disabled or aged family member or friend during any given year and spend an average of 20 hours per week providing care for their loved one. (1)
The value of the services family caregivers provide for "free" when caring for older adults is estimated to be $375 billion a year. That is almost twice as much as is actually spent on home care and nursing home services combined ($158 billion). (2)
If you are the adult child of aging parents, you may find yourself in the position of someday having to assist them with handling their finances. Whether that time is now, the near future or further down the road, there are steps you can take to make the process a bit easier.
Let’s start with a conversation.
Your first step should be to get a handle on your parents' finances so you fully understand their current financial situation. The best time to do so is when your parents are relatively healthy and active. Otherwise, you may find yourself making critical decisions on their behalf amid a crisis.
You can start by asking them some basic questions:
- What financial institutions hold their assets (e.g., bank, brokerage, and retirement accounts)?
- Do they work with any financial, legal, or tax advisors? If so, how often do they meet with them?
- Do they need help paying monthly bills or assistance reviewing items like credit card statements, medical receipts or property tax bills?
Make sure your parents have the necessary legal documents.
In order to help your parents manage their finances in the future, you'll need the legal authority to do so. This requires a durable power of attorney, which is a legal document that allows a named individual (such as an adult child) to manage all aspects of a person's financial life if he or she becomes disabled or incompetent. A durable power of attorney will allow you to handle day-to-day finances for your parents, such as signing checks, paying bills and making financial decisions for them.
In addition to a durable power of attorney, you'll want to make sure that your parents have an advance health care directive, also known as a health care power of attorney or health care proxy. An advance health care directive will allow you to make medical decisions according to their wishes (e.g., life support measures and who will communicate with health care professionals on their behalf).
You'll also want to find out if your parents have a will. If so, find out where it's located and who is named as personal representative or executor. If the will was drafted a long time ago, your parents may want to review it to make sure their current wishes are represented. You should also ask if they made any dispositions or gifts of specific personal property (e.g., a family heirloom to be given to a specific individual).
Prepare a personal data record.
Once you've opened the lines of communication, your next step is to prepare a personal data record that lists information you might need in the event that your parents become incapacitated or die. Here's some information that should be included:
- Financial information: Bank, brokerage, and retirement accounts (including account numbers and online user names and passwords, if applicable); real estate holdings
- Legal information: Wills, durable powers of attorney, advance health care directives
- Medical information: Health care providers, medication, medical history
- Insurance information: Policy numbers, company names
- Advisor information: Names and phone numbers of any professional service providers
- Location of other important records: Social Security cards, home and vehicle records, outstanding loan documents, past tax returns
- Funeral and burial plans: Prepayment information, final wishes
If your parents keep some or all of these items in a safe deposit box or home safe, make sure you can gain access. It's also a good idea to make copies of all the documents you've gathered and keep them in a safe place. This is especially important if you live far away, because you'll want the information readily available in the event of an emergency.
Don't be afraid to get support and ask for advice.
If you're feeling overwhelmed with the task of handling your parents' finances, don't be afraid to seek out support and advice. A variety of local and national organizations are designed to assist caregivers. If your parents' needs are significant enough, you may want to consider hiring a geriatric care manager who can help you oversee your parents' care and direct you to the right community resources.
Charter Oak has a stable of professional resources to offer its clients and their friends, if we can be of assistance in making an introduction please don’t hesitate to ask. It is always our pleasure to help.
1. Evercare Survey of the Economic Downturn and Its Impact on Family Caregiving
2. National Alliance for Caregiving and Evercare. March 2009